The grass isn’t greener on the other side – it’s greener on the side you water.
Have you ever noticed that the world viciously attacks and slanders those who appear to be ‘too happy and too loving’, suspecting that their happiness and loving actions are all an act? And yet, the world either leaves the “terminally negative” people much to their own devices or, worse yet, it idolizes such negativity and labels it savvy, wise, and discerning.
Envy lies to you by making you feel like if someone else has what you want, that they’ve somehow taken it away from you. It’s not true.
The moment you resent another person’s happiness is the moment you diminish your own.
January 13, 2020
If someone is leaving you behind, and you are becoming jealous and embittered, keep praying that he may have success in the very matter where he is awakening your envy; and whether he is helped or not, one thing is sure, that your own soul will be cleansed and ennobled.
The core belief that each person is beautifully unique and valuable, and that there are enough opportunities and resources in the world for every one of us to “happen”– as opposed to the lies that are not valuable and there is not enough for us all to flourish or succeed– leads us to commit to building relationships with high levels of encouragement, affirmation, generosity, and calls to excellence.
I think one of the hardest things in life is learning to “Stay in your lane”. One of the ways to do that, is to CELEBRATE what other people are doing. Competition will put you on the sidelines but celebration of others will allow you to participate in their victories.
Some people have a warped idea of living the Christian life. Seeing talented, successful Christians, they attempt to imitate them. For them, the grass on the other side of the fence is always greener. But when they discover that their own gifts are different or their contributions are more modest (or even invisible), they collapse in discouragement and overlook genuine opportunities that are open to them. They have forgotten that they are here to serve Christ, not themselves.
The number one way to block your creativity. Dabble your paintbrush in another’s palette. Stop comparing your gift to another person’s gift.
ALL extreme sensitiveness, fastidiousness, suspicion, readiness to take offence, and tenacity of what we think our due, come from self-love, as does the unworthy secret gratification we sometimes feel when another is humbled or mortified; the cold indifference, the harshness of our criticism, the unfairness and hastiness of our judgments, our bitterness towards those we dislike, and many other faults which must more or less rise up before most men’s conscience, when they question it sincerely as to how far they do indeed love their neighbours as Christ has loved them. He will root out all dislikes and aversions, all readiness to take offence, all resentments, all bitterness, from the heart which is given up to His guidance. He will infuse His own tender love for man into His servant’s mind, and teach him to “love his brother as Christ has loved him.”