People who succeed in life do not go around setting scores; they do not even keep scores. They run up the score by doing good to others, even when the others don’t deserve it. They give them better than they are given. And as a result, they often bring the other person up to their level, instead of being brought down to the level of the other.
Forgiving those who assail you is the key to not being permanently victimized by them. Whatever the initial impact of any offense done to us by others, our refusal to react, to carry a grudge or to retaliate in kind secures the high ground. But that must be as real on our part as the Savior’s forgiveness, not merely a humanistic, self-willed exercise in self-control. The latter may appear noble, but it only breeds an internalized pride. True forgiveness springs from gratitude to God for His forgiving me. True forgiveness is born of my remembrance that I have been forgiven so great a debt through God’s love that there is no justification for my being less than fully forgiving to others. Because I have “freely received,” my Lord calls me to “freely give.” To forgive those seeking to injure you or me is to remove ourselves from their control and to be unfettered by the anger, pain or disappointment that would seek to attach itself to us.
March 7, 2020
It is better to suffer wrong than to do it, and happier to be sometimes cheated than not to trust.
I was reading the Bible. Vengeance is apparently not a Christian option.
When you give up vengeance, make sure you are not giving up on justice. The line between the two is faint, unsteady, and fine…Vengeance is our own pleasure of seeing someone who hurt us getting it back and then some. Justice, on the other hand, is secure when someone pays a fair penalty for wronging another even if the injured person takes no pleasure in the transaction. Vengeance is personal satisfaction. Justice is moral accounting…Human forgiveness does not do away with human justice.
We ought not to keep score of the number of times others have hurt us. God keeps records, and vengeance belongs to him.
There is no profounder proof of grace of character than that of being able to suffer wrongfully and yet to manifest a gracious spirit.