Have you received the difficult people whom God has placed in your life as an instrument of blessing? If you do not value, honor, and respect them, then you may be treating them like a curse, thus inheriting a curse! When we receive them as a blessing to help us find out what we are full of, then God can take every negative relationship and use it to bring us into spiritual maturity.
There is next to nothing that can be accomplished by anger that can’t better be accomplished by love to a greater purpose. There’s nothing that needs anger to be accomplished that can’t better be accomplished by love with a more lasting impact.
When you debate a person about something that affects them more than it affects you, remember that it will take a much greater emotional toll on them than on you. For you, it may feel like an academic exercise. For them, it feels like revealing their pain only to have you dismiss their experience and sometimes their humanity. The fact that you might remain calmer, under those circumstances, is a consequence of your privilege, not increased objectivity on your part. Stay humble.
It’s easy to honor someone you don’t know. But to honor someone you DO know; after seeing the good, the bad and the ugly in their lives… this is the real challenge.
The core belief that each person is beautifully unique and valuable, and that there are enough opportunities and resources in the world for every one of us to “happen”– as opposed to the lies that are not valuable and there is not enough for us all to flourish or succeed– leads us to commit to building relationships with high levels of encouragement, affirmation, generosity, and calls to excellence.