Today, you can make the choice. You can choose to dwell in the hurt and bitterness, or you can cry until there isn’t a drop left in you, then get up, wash your face, and move forward with a clear heart and a clean slate.
There is nothing in this world worth losing the future God has for you. Let go of the past and embrace what is to come.
When I develop a mindset of forgiveness, rather than a mindset of grievance, I don’t just forgive a particular act; I become a more forgiving person. With a grievance mindset, I look at the world and see all that is wrong. When I have a forgiveness mindset, I start to see the world not through grievance but through gratitude. In other words, I look at the world and start to see what is right. There is a special kind of magic that happens when I become a more forgiving person—it is quite remarkable. What was once a grave affront melts into nothing more than a thoughtless or careless act. What was once a reason for rupture and alienation becomes an opportunity for repair and greater intimacy. A life that seemed littered with obstacles and antagonism is suddenly filled with opportunity and love.
Praying for your enemies keeps them from getting inside of you, so you don’t become like them.
The difference between unforgiveness and forgiveness depends on whose blood brings you peace. The blood of your enemy or the blood of your Savior.
If we refuse to forgive, we have stepped into dangerous waters. First, refusing to forgive is to put ourselves in the place of God, as though vengeance were our prerogative, not his. Second, unforgiveness says God’s wrath is insufficient. For the unbeliever, we are saying that an eternity in hell is not enough; they need our slap in the face or cold shoulder to “even the scales” of justice. For the believer, we are saying that Christ’s humiliation and death are not enough. In other words, we shake our fists at God and say, “Your standards may have been satisfied, but my standard is higher!” Finally, refusing to forgive is the highest form of arrogance. Here we stand forgiven. And as we bask in the forgiveness of a perfectly holy and righteous God, we turn to our brother and say, “My sins are forgivable, but yours are not.” In other words, we act as though the sins of others are too significant to forgive while simultaneously believing that ours are not significant enough to matter.
Regardless of why you have made bitterness and hatred your best friends, if you carry them around long enough, they will eventually eat you from the inside out.
I was reading the Bible. Vengeance is apparently not a Christian option.
Hate doesn’t always show up as hate in one’s heart. It begins as a seemingly cuddly little cub known as offense, which tells him or her how great he is and that the entire world hates him. As the cub is allowed to grow, it turns into an untameable beast known as hate which turns on everyone, including the keeper who coddled it and fed it. Be wary of what you entertain within your soul.
A hard Biblical truth
The God of Heaven and Earth knitted your worst enemy together in their mother’s womb, loves them and deeply desires them to repent and believe. Remember that the next time you are tempted to curse them.
Many people mess up every new day with what happened yesterday. They insist on bringing into today the failures of yesterday, and in so doing pollute a potentially wonderful day. When bitterness, resentment, and revenge are allowed to live in the human heart, words of affirmation will be impossible to speak.