I’ve discovered that the right answer begins with the right question. God is not offended by a sincere question; He loves an honest seeker. So, keep asking!
A sign of the security of your beliefs is that you welcome hard questions and scrutiny; a sign of their insecurity is when you shut down and censor discussion.
I’ve learned this lesson the hard way and perhaps I can help prevent you from going through some painful lessons yourself. In a time of conflict, ask questions but make sure they are genuine questions. Resist the urge to ask questions that lead people to answer in the way you would want them to answer. Unlike Jesus, you don’t know the intentions of a person’s heart. Give your full attention to their answer without mentally formatting your response as they speak. Don’t be afraid of pauses in a conversation. It’s better to be thoughtful than it is to be quick.