Pity will imitate compassion while simultaneously hiding it from us. Pity wants nothing more than for us to think we are acting with compassion, so we believe we are doing something good and godly, while in reality we are assisting evil. Knowing the difference is crucial, here’s a few ways to recognize that difference: Pity steals power (by doing for others what they can do themselves) while compassion imparts it. Pity will let others convince us they are helpless so we step in and rescue them, thereby strengthening the victim mindset in them. Compassion refuses to believe people are helpless and allows them opportunities to discover that. Pity leaves people in their problems while compassion pulls them out. Pity hides the truth to protect emotions, compassion tells the truth in a loving way. Pity seems nice but isn’t. Compassion sometimes appears mean but is truly kind. Don’t let pity hide the very thing it’s pretending to be.
Compassion
William Booth
While women weep, as they do now, I’ll fight; while children go hungry, as they do now I’ll fight; while men go to prison, in and out, in and out, as they do now, I’ll fight; while there is a drunkard left, while there is a poor lost girl upon the streets, while there remains one dark soul without the light of God, I’ll fight; I’ll fight to the very end!
Brennan Manning
Live in the wisdom of accepted tenderness. Tenderness awakens within the security of knowing we are thoroughly and sincerely liked by someone… Scripture suggests that the essence of the divine nature is compassion and that the heart of God is defined by tenderness.
Michael Ann Goll
You do not need a special gift or some special calling. You just need a big heart to make a difference, one person at a time. Just do it!
Frederick W Faber
With the help of grace, the habit of saying kind words is very quickly formed, and when once formed, it is not speedily lost. Sharpness, bitterness, sarcasm, acute observation, divination of motives, – all these things disappear when a man is earnestly conforming himself to the image of Christ Jesus. The very attempt to be like our dearest Lord is already a well-spring of sweetness within us, flowing with an easy grace over all who come within our reach.
Charles Kingsley
If you, your heart, your will, are enlisted on the good side, if you are wishing and trying that the good in you should conquer the bad, then you are on the side of God Himself, and God is on your side; and “if God be for us, who shall be against us?” Take courage, then. If thou dislikest thy sins, so does God. If thou art fighting against thy worst feelings, so is God. On thy side is God who made all, and Christ who died for all, and the Holy Spirit who alone gives wisdom purity, nobleness. How canst thou fail when He is on thy side? On thy side are all spirits of just men made perfect, all wise and good souls in earth and heaven, all good and wholesome influences, whether of nature or of grace, of matter or of mind. How canst thou fail if they are on thy side?
Thomas Merton
It is… of supreme importance that we consent to live not for ourselves but for others. When we do this we will be able first of all to face and accept our own limitations. As long as we secretly adore ourselves, our own deficiencies will remain to torture us with an apparent defilement. But if we live for others, we will gradually discover that no one expects us to be ‘as gods’. We will see that we are human, like everyone else, that we all have weaknesses and deficiencies, and that these limitations of ours play a most important part in all our lives. It is because of them that we need others and others need us. We are not all weak in the same spots, and so we supplement and complete one another, each one making up in himself for the lack in another.
Lehman Strauss
God forgave us without any merit on our part; therefore we must forgive others, whether or not we think they merit it.
Katherine Walden
Speak the truth always but do so with the heart posture to cause the least offence. Chose your words wisely. Even when the truth you share may be hard, let your words drip with humility and compassion.
Dietrich Bonhoeffer
The first service one owes to others in the fellowship consists in listening to them. Just as love of God begins in listening to His Word, so the beginning of love for the brethren is learning to listen to them. It is God’s love for us that He not only gives us His Word but lends us His ear. So it is His work that we do for our brother when we learn to listen to him.