Forgiveness doesn’t require reconciliation. Sometimes reconciliation isn’t possible or safe. Forgiveness is your decision that no one can take away from you. It’s you honoring God. It’s you honoring your healing process. It’s you deciding you’ve suffered enough because of what happened. It’s empowering and it is beautiful. Reconciliation requires that both people are willing to do the hard and humble work of coming back together. If they weren’t willing to honor the work necessary to come back together in a healthy way, that doesn’t make you a failure. Not even close. Your redemption by God is not held hostage by someone else’s choices. It’s between you and God.
In Modernism, miracles also are suspect if not "impossible." Forced to deny plain words of the Scriptures that expose and condemn all natural man’s selfish actions, the Modernist has to question ALL Scripture that does not agree with his life. The God’s Divine Directory becomes a book "written by man" full of "mistakes." Its plain demands become "Misinterpretations." Modernism joins Satan by asking, "Has God said?" when He very plainly HAS! (Genesis 3:1). This philosophy tries to take the supernatural from Scripture and society, undermining faith in God and His Word. Here, the Bible is not our absolute guide for life under the light of God’s Holy Spirit. A Modernist rethinks truth in a way that clouds Christ’s clear commands. He makes darkened reason, not intelligent trust in the Word of a wise and holy God, his rule. Subtle changes in understanding of truth, double-thinking, and silence on issues that clarify sin are all marks of Modernism.
We all have our moments when we falter, fumble, or fail. I definitely have. But the good news is that our failures are not final. Our ideas of "failing" or "succeeding" are often built on false assumptions about the ultimate goal of our Christian race. The goal is actually not so much about what we accomplish for God, but that we are in the process of becoming more like him. While we are not perfect (only Jesus is perfect!), we persevere through failure. And we are called to press on — building our humility and reliance on him.
Jesus is a redeemer, a restorer in every way. His day on the cross looked like a colossal failure, but it was His finest moment. He launched a kingdom where the least will be the greatest and the last will be the first, where the poor will be comforted, and the meek will inherit the earth. Jesus brought together the homeless with the privileged and said, “You’re all poor, and you’re all beautiful.” The cross levelled the playing field, and no earthly distinction is valid anymore. There is a new “us”-people rescued by the Passover lamb, adopted into the family and transformed into saints. It is the most epic miracle in history.
I'm convinced that the concept of oneness in marriage involves this principle: two halves fused together, making one. They are unable to properly function separately. Each requires the other for success. I do not make any decisions without letting me know what I’m thinking. Therefore, since my wife is ‘me,’ I’m not going to make decisions without letting ‘me’ know what is going on in ‘my’ thinking!"