If you want to identify me, ask me not where I live, or what I like to eat, or how I comb my hair, but ask me what I think I am living for, in detail, and ask me what I think is keeping me from living fully for the thing I want to live for. Between these two answers you can determine the identity of any person.
Many of us were taught lies like, “pain is weakness leaving the body,” or “what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.” The truth is that[emotional] pain is a need begging to be met. The longer a person lives in pain, the more likely it is that his or her heart will shut down. See, most of us don’t even know who we are, because we haven’t stopped long enough to say hello to ourselves or ask ourselves, “How can I help you?”