By letting go, the offended refuses to let herself be held captive by the offender’s unwillingness to repent.
Offense
Elisabeth Elliot
Let us beware of rebellion against the Lord. Circumstances are of his choosing, because He wants to bless us, to lead us (even through the wilderness) out of Egypt, that is, out of ourselves. Settle the complaint with God, and it will settle other things. Be offended with God, and you will be offended with everyone who crosses your path.